Your Intermezzo Montreal matchmaker just proposed a profile that you find interesting. You can’t wait to meet your date! Don’t ruin the opportunity by giving a starring role to your iPhone or Blackberry. That’s what can happen when you place your phone conspicuously on the table! Read on to discover a little more about cell phone etiquette on a date.

Have you ever felt awkward or uneasy when the person you are with is in the midst of a full out conversation on their cell phone? Not only is it impolite on their part, but it gives the impression that you are far from their priority at the moment. Researchers Andrew Przybylski and Netta Weinstein from Essex University conducted a study to determine the effects that the presence of a cell phone have on face-to-face communications. They found that the mere presence of a cell phone (even if it doesn’t ring or buzz once) can hinder the formation of relationships and thwart feelings of trust and empathy, especially during meaningful discussions. The researchers suggest that the presence of a cell phone ‘’sends the message’’ that your conversation could be interrupted at any moment.

This is strong evidence to support that cell phones need to remain out of sight during a first date. You may be meeting someone who will play a significant role in your life - so why give the impression that an incoming 5-second Snapchat is more important?

As professional matchmakers, we tell members of our dating agency to put cell phones away and focus their attention on their date. Eye contact and uninterrupted conversation are vital in the first phase of a relationship. Old school rules of politeness can communicate to your date that you are worthy of their time… the person sitting in front of you may turn out to be the love of your life!

Joan S. Paiement
President